Q. Has anyone else had the experience of dating while waiting for a twin to return? The universe has brought me a very kind and attractive companion, and I’m finding it challenging to be physically affectionate toward this man — even though I’m quite fond of him — as I know that my twin and I will soon be in reunion. I can feel that this is an unnatural resistance but at the same time I just don’t feel that same level of passion I have toward my twin and so it’s uncomfortable for me. Any advice, insights? Thank you to those of you who understand this incredibly beautiful-but-painful twin-flame experience!!!
A. Yes I have had such an experience of loving in the time between reunion in all ways with my twin flame…I encourage you to look at this as not “waiting” for your twin to return, but rather as deepening the love between the both of you and all that is. As you deepen this love by sharing also with another (if you are guided), you deepen it between you and your twin flame and for all that is. When you become aware of who your twin flame is and remember yourself into the experience of the intensity and depth of love that is always, all ways, flowing between you, it cannot be “easy” to open your heart and all of you to another person. Yet many twin flames have chosen this, to include a soul mate, to expand the perceptions, emotions, and experience of love…as it is all inclusive and not exclusive…love wants to love and to grow upon itself, including everyone with it as it goes. I can say that such an experience, of loving with a soul mate, while also having and holding this eternal deep love with your twin flame does have its ups and downs, like a roller coaster ride, of emotions…when all of your being desires to give and receive all of yourself with your one true counterpart, your twin flame…yet sharing with a soul mate offers you many opportunities to enjoy each moment as one merges with the next, joining together in sweet harmony…bringing you deeper and deeper into the limitless, neverending wellspring of love within you and surrounding you without. Note: Don’t get frustrated with yourself when you feel happy and then sad the next…just ride the waves, knowing that what you are doing is breaking down the limitations and illusions of love that you may have followed previously. There can be layers and layers…have trust and faith as you walk your journey, and do know that you have a support system here.
Q. This journey is beautiful, full of ups and downs and all the signs and places like yours keep us going with trust and faith. As you mentioned above, love deepens every day, even when we are with our soul mate. However, my only concern is , if we are hurting our soul mate by being like this?
A. It is a concern that many of us have or have had…and perhaps even if we’ve recognized and acknowledged it, it can come up within our psyche again, for as we move forward along this path of self love and love for all, we deeply care for others as ourselves, as we know we are all connected. However, the other thing to remember is that pain ~ to feel pain is a choice ~ and most often than not, it comes from a place of separation ~ in the instance of a soul mate feeling pain, it would be because he/she is not seeing the love that twin flames feel/have as including them. The pain comes from a misperception that the twin flame love/connection takes away from their love…and as I’ve mentioned before, true love is all inclusive…it is only the patterns of separation that would create the perception that it is not. Also, pain in a relationship can be created from the false belief and uncertainty that love can remain or that love can be lost…but the truth is that love is what we are, therefore we are never separate from love, even when we are not in a physical relationship with another (soul mate or twin flame). Yet, this is one of the very popular beliefs streaming through society…and it is one that needs to be released so that true love can be fully remembered and experienced. The important things I believe when sharing love with a soul mate and increasing the love between your twin flame and yourself (as well as for all of you at the same time) is: honesty, communication, moving through the illusions and limitations of what love is (riding the waves of the uncomfortable emotions) as you focus on love in each moment, to be present in each moment, knowing that all moments are connected to right now . Be the love that you are and allow yourself to receive the same love back upon yourself. Your soul mate can choose to feel pain, yet through all of the above, and following your own inner guidance in each moment, you can bring the love through and move you both past the “pain” into the comfort of unconditional, eternal, true love that embraces all. Love, love and more love, always.
To Listen to the MP3’s of The Journey of Love with a Soul Mate and Twin Fame Part 1 and The Journey of Love with a Soul Mate and Twin Flame Part 2