Q. It has been a long time since I contacted you. I have been following your blog though but I was feeling only like an observer. Now something has come up and I want to share it. About a year back I found out that my soul mate (husband) was texting to another female who was a close friend of mine. After I confronted them both, he agreed not to continue. But suddenly a few days back it stared again and they were going to further extremes. My children also came to know about it and were very shocked and disappointed. We had a serious discussion and now my soul mate says he will keep away and that other woman’s husband is also aware . As regards me I do not know what to feel. I was shocked but not pained cos I am aware of my twin flame and I love him very much and my soul mate has been only my companion for all these years . Further I have kept away from him physically since I became close with my twin flame. Is this all part of a grander plan? I feel relief on one side that my soul mate can no longer claim that I am hurting him. However I have since asked him to go for spiritual guidance and we have been going to such a centre for the past few days with my children. I do not know where this will lead and what is the purpose of this all and how I should take it. Gabriella what can you understand from this…
A. Quite nice to hear from you! I understand about feeling like an observer on the blog for I’ve felt this myself…seems like a lot of that energy going around ~ observing things around us, our relationships, situations, what we feel, think, believe within and witnessing what we are creating without, shifting it as we feel guided. Honestly, in this situation, you would need to feel into what feels right for you… what resonates with you from deep within you… how you feel about what has transpired, and what you are to receive within it, as well as to give because of it. But from my own personal experience I can say, that many times, the wheels can be turned, so to speak, to give you a different perspective and wholeness to the love that you are. I remember you expressing that you were sharing, opening and feeling the love/connection with your Beloved, that you shared this with your soul mate, and that there was shifting going on within your relationship and your heart as a result. I understand this as I have felt it with my soul mate as well as the closeness between my twin flame had intensified, has and still is increasing.
Remember that I said that all love is love shared with all, as the twin flame one heart unifies it all together and doesn’t see the separation, which our human minds can focus upon. You have come to a place where you were comfortable with the closeness building between your twin flame and yourself… going back to the turning the wheels to see the other perspective… do you feel comfortable with your soul mate opening to and within a closeness with another? If not, why? Often times, we can be okay with one side and not the other… but if love is balanced, then it sees the wholeness, sees both sides and not just one. Are you feeling that this is a personal thing against you, and if so, why? For love is all inclusive and does not separate. Would you want your soul mate to stop you from opening to the love present between your twin flame and yourself? If he were the one who knew of his twin flame, would you deny him the expression of that connection? These are questions to feel into… allow the time to feel into them, without thinking but immersing yourself within them. Remember, there are no wrong answers… just what feels right for you in your heart. This is YOUR journey. Things always happen for a reason or more than one reason… things are always flowing in perfection. Only you can determine what those are and why this is happening now, again… only you can know this… as you allow it to continue to unfold. Focus on the love that is present on both sides… and let the love guide you, not the fear. Remember there is no separation, always there is union. Is there a grand plan playing out? Well, there always is. Our lives and the interconnections between the souls that we love are always playing within our intended co-creation, and each step brings the clarity to the wholeness of it all. Love to you, your soul mate, your children and everyone else involved!
Q. It is so good to hear your guidance. I do not know where this will lead . But I do feel scared that any major disruption to the family might come about. I cannot blame my soul mate nor can I expect him to be celibate all his life. Maybe I do not have the courage to let him go,…..children, security, society, so many things hold us… As of now I have decided only if God should decide to take me further on the twin flame journey, then it will happen. For the past five months my twin flame have been in touch v briefly and infrequently. Now I feel I should not contact him. I feel quite lonely and lost and I know that it is my journey and no one is responsible. I am so grateful for your forum where I can express myself and so deeply grateful to you for your continuous guidance.
A. Love does not have expectations. Love desires to love, reflect itself back to another, and receive that reflection in deeper waves of love back, adding upon it and balancing it within, to then give again. You can be the love with yourself, with your soul mate, and your children. This love comes from within you and is not dependent on anyone or any circumstance outside of you. It is also not dependent on what you receive from your soul mate or what you don’t receive… your love wants to be love and receive it back. If you are feeling something other than this, it is not the pure vibration of love and there is something there blocking it. Rumi has a beautiful quote that I love, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” This does require taking a look at all of what you have believed, what you have felt, the actions you have taken to see if they are still in alignment or is something there that is blocking your full expression of the unique vibration of love you are. This is not necessarily an “easy” task for it can encourage you to break away from thoughts, emotions, patterns you may have been attached to… to move into the expansion and liberation of surrendering it all to right here and now, to what is happening now, what you feel now, and what your heart is guiding you to. Understand that if your heart is guiding you into something, even if there is fear, it is guiding you for a reason, or more than one reason. Your heart would NEVER steer you wrong.
I know that this is a delicate situation, when it comes to marriage or intimacy, for everyone truly needs to follow their own way… and in relationships, every single one of us, is in the relationships and sharing with the people that have come along our path because our souls have intended it, so no one can say knowingly that one situation is not good for another, but only the souls themselves know. then again, from the soul perspective, all experiences are for growth and expansion, therefore nothing is viewed as “bad” or “wrong.” Even if you stay in the marriage for the reasons you feel are right, your children can understand what is going on… and may be learning other things, even if you stayed. Whatever you say, actions do speak loud and the energy within the actions or lack of actions is still felt, even if not clarified. Ask yourself if there is something that you are holding onto because you resonate deeply and agree with it or is it because you are afraid of change and what the change may entail? If you are staying in a relationship for thoughts that are outdated and no longer how you feel, you are living a lie… and I ask you to ponder what would living in your truth feel like and look like? Is it what you are creating? if not, why? Would you live with this? One thing I believe you may want your children to know, to receive, is that they can trust themselves… then you must trust yourself… and after answering these questions above, do you feel you are trusting yourself and knowing that whatever you are receiving from your inner guidance will bring you to where you need to be and also be best for others involved? Remember that nothing on the soul level is “bad,” it is an opportunity to expand and move deeper into the truths of love as well as the expression of and creation in that love. If the souls involved are there with you, their souls have agreed to co-create with you… what you may choose has been understood… and then the layout would happen after the choices are made, offering all of you the growth that you have intended. Just because someone stays together for 30 years doesn’t mean they are happy, and just because a couple separates after one year doesn’t mean that they weren’t happy or that they aren’t happy now. SO much love to you and to everyone in your circle.