Exploring All the Aspects of Letting Go

Have you Wondered Just what the Secret is to Letting Go and Why it is so Powerful? I was joined by Guy Finley, the acclaimed Author of The Secret of Letting Go, The Essential Laws of Fearless Living and 35 other major works that have sold over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. His ideas go straight to the heart of our most important personal and social issues — relationships, success, addiction, stress, peace, happiness, freedom — and lead the way to a higher life. Guy Finley is also the director of Life of Learning Foundation, the non-profit self-realization school in Merlin, Oregon, and his popular Key Lesson e-mails are read each week by 200,000 subscribers in 142 countries. His work is widely endorsed by doctors, business professionals, celebrities, and religious leaders of all denominations. To view Guy Finley’s website, go here Wesbite and to learn more about his Foundation, visit here: Life of Learning Foundation A beautiful video on our One Journey as spiritual and human beings: One...

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The Secret of Harmonious Relationships
Aug07

The Secret of Harmonious Relationships

To listen to my interview with Guy Finley, please go here: Exploring all the Aspects of Letting Go by Guy Finley Our relationships with one another are often a source of distress. In general, the principal form of conflict we experience with others has to do with some form of consideration that we feel they are not giving to us. We often suffer from thoughts like these: “She is not being respectful enough.” “He is not as kind as I want him to be.” “They just don’t care as deeply as I do.” However, if we will be courageous enough to see the truth of the next insight, and then admit its finding into our heart and mind, we can change the real root of this underlying sense of our dissatisfaction with others along with the conflict it generates between those involved: Many times the very thing we want from the person we are with — for example, respect, patience, kindness, love — is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise somehow are withholding from them. The “catch” here is that we are mostly unconscious to our actual inner condition in these encounters with others, and here’s a major reason why this happens: Hidden in each of us are certain clever “self-concealing devices” whose sole reason for being is to keep us asleep to ourselves and blindly serving their ends, most of which are to mechanically perpetuate struggle and conflict. One of the ways these conflict-producing characters stay undetected — while generating their strife — is to point the arrow of insufficiency at someone else. Each time this self successfully diverts our attention in this way here’s what unfolds: Not only are we kept from coming awake to ourselves, but in this engineered spiritual sleep we are rendered unable to realize that the very quality we judge as missing in the person or persons before us is actually lacking in ourselves! A little inner work on our part reveals the truth of our condition. We almost always place certain character demands upon others, but almost never see that the nature in us making these demands is without the very substance it cries out as missing. No wonder the circle of disharmony continues. In our spiritual sleep we act as its unconscious continuous circumference! What’s to be done? How can we change ourselves (first things first!) and at the same time help our friends and family grow in Spirit? How can we realize True Self, end this circle of conflict, and open ourselves to Real Conscience — one that could no more feel these...

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Letting Go of What Limits Our Relationships
Jul31

Letting Go of What Limits Our Relationships

By Guy Finley No relationship in life can be any more successful than what we are willing to learn about ourselves through it. The moment we turn our back on what others give us to see about ourselves, we not only walk away from what we need to see, but also from the better person we could be. . . were we only willing to learn the lesson at hand. The success of our relationships with others depends on a two-part key that unlocks our potential to love: First, we are asked to do the interior work of becoming aware of ourselves in a whole new way. Second, we must learn to welcome what this new light reveals to us about ourselves. One without the other is useless. Our responsibility is not to try and enhance ourselves through our various relationships in life, but rather to discover and realize ourselves through them. Think of the vast difference between these two pursuits. One brings endless ways in which we feel we must make painful compromises with others in order to protect what we have “gained” through them. The other way leads us to the gradual realization of an interior greatness that can neither be enslaved nor corrupted. Only our awakening can end the aching inherent in the many ways we have become falsely dependent upon others. Those who depend on others to provide them with their sense of worth are co-dependent; each must have the other to keep the illusion alive, even though by feeding this relationship they effectively separate themselves from the possibility of ever knowing their true value. Anyone we enable, we disable . . . including ourselves. And there’s only one reason any two people consent to compromise themselves in this way: neither has yet discovered the truth of who they really are. We can never enable someone else without having first disabled our own higher nature that knows better than to bargain for friendship, love–or just to feel “needed” in some way. Resentment and regret are the bitter fruit of all co-dependent relationships, because the ground out of which they grow is self-compromise disguised as caring for one another. We cannot authentically care for another until we carry within us the lighted lamp of higher self-understanding. A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: Whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we’ll be paying for in the days ahead. Disconcerting, yes; but there’s no denying it: there are unconscious parts of us...

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