Surrender to the Flow: Choose Unconditional Love and Presence in the Moment
Nov18

Surrender to the Flow: Choose Unconditional Love and Presence in the Moment

Q. My twin soul has 3 children with different women. We met on the internet after he moved to CPT to find himself spiritually. We fell in love and connected spiritually, heart and soul. I’m further along the path spiritually and he is still ‘battling his demons’. He obviously has an issue with sex and women. And Alcohol. Dilemma: I wanted to have a family with him and he with me but It would be a bad choice it seems. I don’t know how far he’s prepared to ‘work’ in order to heal and I think it would be irresponsible of me to bring another child into this scenario. Thing is I don’t think I will ever want another man besides him. And I have such immense compassion for him, I want to be there for him. But would that mean sacrificing having a family? I’m 33.I don’t know how to be in the moment with this. A. Twin souls are the mirror image for each other…and if one twin is “battling demons,” then you can guarantee that there are some demons of your own that you are called to take a look at, to allow to heal by loving them into the light. You can’t go into the space of judging what he is doing, where you feel he is at, and determining what is best for him yet also be in the space of unconditional love with yourself and him (as these do go hand in hand). Unconditional love accepts exactly what is, what is being chosen or acted (or not acted upon) without determining what is the best course of action to show that healing is taking place. I can understand wanting to bring a child into this world, as it is one of the reasons we choose to love and unite with others, creating an extension of that love. Yet, it is not the path for everyone. I wonder, where is that desire coming from? We are now moving from the old ways of relationships and loving into the new way…meaning that we are asked to come from the space of the heart with unconditional love rather than the mind with rationalizing and planning everything. The heart goes with the flow and allows feelings, guidance to bring you to the next moment in the “future,” yet the mind starts to make plans for that future. In other words, it used to be common and the “norm,” to get an education, move further into adulthood, get a secure job, find a partner, get married, have kids. Yet the flow naturally will bring you into such things...

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