Relationships
Jul31

Relationships

To listen to my interview with Anthony Harris, go here: Share the Light and Love of You in Service to Others by Anthony Harris When I think of relationships, a couple of thoughts come to mind. First, with the right relationship, there is absolutely nothing that cannot be done. Whether the relationship involves family, friends, or colleagues, when individuals create a mutually beneficial and mutually satisfying relationship, those individuals can accomplish some amazing feats. When I think about my own personal and professional accomplishments, I could not have come close to being successful without being in a relationship with someone. Whether it was climbing an 80-foot wall or establishing a mentoring program for at-risk kids, absent the presence of someone who genuinely cared about me and valued our relationship, some important goals in my life would have gone wanting. I am firmly entrenched in the belief in that Swedish Proverb: Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow. The second thought that comes to my mind about relationships is that they can be either resilient, fragile or both. Most strong relationships – the ones built on a solid foundation of trust, respect, and honesty – can amazingly withstand both the ripples and tsunamis that inevitably affect a relationship. Whether there is a minor misunderstanding or a major breach, strong relationships do not accede to the destructiveness of pettiness or succumb to the temptation to end the relationship when stress is placed upon them. Although strong relationships are inherently resilient, their strength can be diminished; and they can suffer chronic and debilitating fragility, if we take them for granted. Because relationships are organic and require the proper amount of nourishment, attention and nurturing, it becomes extremely important to resist taking them for granted. Just as a robust plant can wilt if it does not receive proper nourishment, attention and nurturing, so can relationships. As humans, we frequently get caught up in the busy-ness of life, dealing with deadlines, balancing demands on our time, and otherwise dealing with the daily stressors of life. An unfortunate consequence of that busy-ness is that we can forget to nurture, nourish, and give attention to our relationships. In other words, we can take our relationships for granted and even make erroneous assumptions about them. As Robert Brault pointed out: For lack of an occasional expression of love, a relationship strong at the seams can wear thin in the middle. In my book Gifts of Moments: Being Somebody to Somebody, I recount an incident that prompted me abjure assumptions and instead, reach out to loved ones in an effort to nurture and...

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Continuing to Move From Separation into Union Consciousness in Relationships

A lot of energies swirling around within us in the vibration of separation that are being healed now. Allow yourself to feel the emotions, be aware of your behaviors, your beliefs, and your fears as they come up. Know that what may be deemed unpleasant right now is there for you to recognize it and move through it. Lots of shifting going on, bring you deeper into union. You are not...

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Finding Balance Between Masculine and Feminine
Feb21

Finding Balance Between Masculine and Feminine

To listen to the interview I had with Gabriel, please click here where you are free to leave comments and questions too: The Mystery of Woman Upheld and Honored by Gabriel Morris What most needs to happen between men and women, masculine and feminine, is that we need to drop the power play. Men and women need to acknowledge and accept the truth of who they are, and not feel superior or inferior for the energies that they embody. We must recognize that, first, we have much more in common than we have differences, in terms of what we really seek in life: happiness, security, love, purpose, meaning, learning, spiritual illumination. At the same time, there are also some inherent differences between the basic, primal natures of masculine and feminine energies. Yet we must understand that they are both absolutely essential for life and a reflection of the fundamental energies of the universe, and that we both need each other. With acceptance of this basic reality, there can be found true balance and resolution. But that can only happen once both drop the idea that this construct makes one superior or dominant over the other. That is the paradigm of separation vs. oneness. It’s only an issue as long as there is a fear or obsession around trying to figure out who is better than who, or who has the most power. Men and women simply have, to some extent, different sources of power. Once men and women let go of trying to compete with one another for power, but instead acknowledge the essence of who they really are…then they can start working towards a common goal of unity, rather than engaging in a struggle in which the masculine is more often on the attack and the feminine feels it necessary to defend herself. Something analogous that comes to mind is a rather silly game that some researchers came up with, in order to conduct a study of children in different societies around the world. Imagine a checker board, but there’s only one checker piece sitting in one of the squares at the center of the board. Each person gets one move, and then they alternate. The goal is to get the piece over to your opponent’s side of the board. Whoever accomplishes this gets a piece of candy. But think about it for a second. The game is basically rigged, so that if you play it competitively, you get nothing. But if you play it cooperatively, then you get your candy. Because if you play against each other, then what happens is you move the piece one move...

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Happy Love Day Every Day
Feb14

Happy Love Day Every Day

Today is Valentine’s Day and it is considered the day where we express our love to those we are in relationship with. However, I want to bring out the idea that love is really a choice to share in with yourself and others, to be expressed within your relationships, and to be part of your experiences EVERY DAY. This can be a state of being, a choice to operate and vibrate in the place of love rather than fear. So if that is so, then this day isn’t any different from any other day. It is just another day that offers you the chance to choose again to come from the place of love. This day, therefore, doesn’t have to bring about feelings of loneliness unless we choose that to be the case. The other thing to remember is that we are never separated from those we love, we are always connected to them, even if we are not physically beside the ones we love. If you are single or if your loved one is not physically near you right now, you are still connected. Our energies are messed together forever with those that are vibrational matches to who we are. It is the mind that can perceive of separation, focusing on that perception which can then cause loneliness and tears. But again, remember, this is a choice. Love is within you and your happiness comes from within you. You are happy and then bring that happiness to anything you experience, whether it be a relationship or anything really. I wanted to offer you some tips of how you can share love with yourself if you are single or even if you are in a relationship… ~~ Read a book you find interesting in silence, either in a comfy space in your home or in nature. Sometimes when we go along a journey with a character, we receive inspiration we can take within our own lives. If we are reading a self help book, we can receive insight into our own lives and can incorporate those things within our own experience of life and love. ~~Spend some quiet time just resting, laying down, sitting, whatever is comfortable for you and do nothing. We can get into hectic schedules and routines of doing so much that we don’t often take the time to do nothing. Doing nothing can be so rewarding for it offers our spirits a chance to refresh, just breathing and being, totally as we are, releasing the mind and all we feel we have to do. ~~ Laugh. This sounds simple, but really, how easy it is...

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