Open Relationships: An Ongoing Conversation
Dec15

Open Relationships: An Ongoing Conversation

I was asked in a recent interview what I thought about open relationships and since, there have been thoughts and guidance on this topic swarming around in my head. I now have to put down on paper what is coming through. When you hear the term “open relationships,” you may not think positively on it…and the truth is that NOTHING is ever negative or “wrong,” unless individually we adopt this to be so. Perhaps something that does not feel right for you is right for another person…that being said, I do need to express what I feel about open relationships in regards to the twin flame, higher love journey. Perhaps you have grown up believing that you won’t be able to find Mr or Ms Right and be able to maintain a happy relationship with this one person. There are many sources that may have influenced this belief, such as the media, friends, stories, your own experiences, etc. It used to be that if a relationship wasn’t flowing and there seemed to be too much work, that blame would be placed on the other person instead of going within to see what was going on or one of the partners would leave the relationship to try and find another more suited for them. Here is the truth: you have relationships with souls that care about you so that you can experience challenging situations for the reason of healing behavior patterns, emotions, reactions that are not based in unconditional love, to allow you to move into deeper love for yourself and with your intimate partners. There are various reasons why a couple would choose to have an open relationship but think about it…think about where you are in your feelings about relationships…do you believe that you can be happy and remain so with one person? Fear can be a factor of the creation of open relationships: the fear of being alone yet knowing that your present partner is not fulfilling your needs and is not in alignment with who you are and as a result, the open relationship would allow you to explore other possibilities while not being “alone” or single. Perhaps there isn’t as spicy an intimate life with your partner as when you started the relationship…and you want to see what else is out there. Whether you are just thinking about this or have experience in open relationships, then I ask you to consider this…do you feel that in order for a relationship to become open there is a “problem” or disharmony within the relationship beforehand? When you move into a deeper space of unconditional love within yourself,...

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