Revolutionary Road – The Inner Dream vs Society’s Dream (Blog Talk)
Oct26

Revolutionary Road – The Inner Dream vs Society’s Dream (Blog Talk)

Have you watched the movie Revolutionary Road? We are going to discuss the many ideas that this movie brings through. We can choose to live the reality of our own inner dream or we can submit to the dream that society holds for us. Which one of these will allow us to be our happiest? What can occur as a result of following a set of rules others create for us instead of following our own...

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It is Possible to Receive Love after a Dear One Passes On

Have you or someone you know had a loved one pass on and would like to experience a loving relationship again? Have you found yourself doubting whether or not it is possible to love again? In this show, we will discuss these questions to help give some answers and provide hope to your...

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Being Happy Requires Self Awareness, Releasing Assumptions, and not Taking Things Personally
Oct05

Being Happy Requires Self Awareness, Releasing Assumptions, and not Taking Things Personally

I have many people ask me what is the problem within their relationship with their partner. First, I have to say that there is never a “problem” but rather things to work on or let go of. Don Miguel Ruiz says to never take things personally, never make assumptions, and only be responsible for your half of a relationship. I am going to explain these in some detail here for you. Nothing that anyone you are choosing to have a relationship with ever does anything deliberately against you. That person is only acting and reacting because of her own life experiences as well as the ideas that she has agreed to believe throughout her experiences. SO, what happens then when someone starts snapping at us because they are feeling not so pleasant with the emotions that may creep up on them in the moment? Has this happened to you? How did you feel? What happens often in this scenario is that the other person starts taking the way that their lover is acting as personal and all these unpleasant thoughts are brought to their mind, which in turn creates unpleasant feelings, which can then create a defensive action. This defensive action most often than not creates another action on the part of the lover because now he feels a need to defend himself. This could go on and on, like ping pong, until one or both people stop it. How can you stop it? Very easily, however it requires you to be self aware, and other than communication being an important part of a healthy relationship, self awareness is the first step that aids within communication. What does being self aware mean? Well, let’s go back to the above scenario and expound on it. Let me give you an exact example that you can consider. Your partner is washing dishes but he doesn’t enjoy the task and it can seem a lot like work for him. He starts snapping, not at you, just snapping in general. He says, “I hate washing dishes, maybe I’ll just get some dishwashing liquid to start using the dishwasher.” In the middle of washing, he just turns the water off, still in a state of frustration with the whole thing. Now, you have options on how you can choose to react (because your reactions and actions are always a choice). You can start taking his words personally in that he is accusing you of not washing the dishes enough and say, “why are you snapping at me? I wash the dishes too,” OR you could choose to let his emotions be released in the...

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