You may want to read this post before this one since it is the first entry into this discussion: First part of Merging from Separation Mentality into Union Consciousness
The path of reunion of twin flames is one of unconditional love, for yourself (knowing that your twin is within you and there isn’t any separation, even if you are physically not beside each other) and for your twin, hence the mirror effect. When you become enamored with the beauty and essence of you, it is enhanced when you meet up with your twin, increasing the love for both you and your twin. Vice versa: when you meet up with your twin, as you love your twin more, the love for yourself increases. It is important to be on the journey of connecting with that love inside you and developing the joy for being on your own in your life before physical reunion.
Soul mates are an essential part of the journey leading up to twin flame reunion. I use the analogy of the ladder of love and that each rung on the ladder is a soul mate relationship, with the top being the twin flame. I believe you may have taken what I said here in the context of the “old” way of relationships and loving, which is YES, absolutely one of lust and being with another for whatever reason: sex, loneliness. So, we have soul mate relationships to prepare us for the twin flame, to help us to release egoic patterns of behavior, emotions, thoughts, and to grow deeper in the vibration of unconditional love. The higher we get up the ladder of love, the more intense our soul mate relationships become, and therefore the love shared has moved way beyond the ego, sharing love and intimacy on a higher level.
Why would someone be with a soul mate and not with a twin flame? In order for twin flames to come together to serve the world in whatever specific mission the souls have intended, they need to choose each other on the soul level as well as the conscious level. There can be reasons why this would not happen…like I said above, the twin flame is the clearest mirror for you as who you are, so if you are not happy with what you consider your “weaknesses” and your “strengths,” then you can easily 1. run in fear from the relationship with your twin flame. 2. You or your twin flame may be consciously aware of your connection and your mission but the other may not. 3. It may not be the right time yet for your reunion.
The twin flame blessing is “If I cannot be with you physically, for whatever reason, then I bless the love that you can share in during the time that we are apart from one another.” The truth is that twin flames are NEVER separated from each other, SO when you are loving another (and I mean loving, not lusting with) then you are sending that love to your twin flame, and your twin flame, whether he/she is in a relationship or not, is still growing from that love being shared. This is all in preparation for the full merging with the twin flame.
Unconditional twin flame love knows that deep soul mate love and all relationships leading up to the union with the twin only enhance the capacity of love for both of the twins and everyone else. Seeing each body as separate from the love shared between twin flames does not exist…there is no separation. That is why you may have read elsewhere that the suggestion for everyone right now is to love your partner AS IF he/she was your twin flame. The reason being is because this love is being sent to your twin and helping you both to evolve unconditionally…loving unconditionally means loving your twin no matter what your twin chooses. If your twin does choose another relationship, and you are conscious of this, there is no judgment, no expectations placed upon your twin, only love sent, shared and expressed. In order to do this, it is important to merge from separation mentality into unity consciousness…as your twin shares love with someone else (another body) in relationship, you are NOT separate from that love, before or even after you become consciously aware of who your twin is ( in name and body) in this lifetime.
Yes, we are walking the Earth back to unconditional love and union, which means knowing that we are deeply connected to each other and most especially our twin flames. Unconditional love does not exclude, nor does it put limitations, restrictions, expectations, or conditions on love…love just is love, freely given and received. Twin flame love knows that not only are we reuniting with our twin flames but also our soul family (which includes our soul mates) and when we reunite with our twin, it only enhances the love that we all share in together. If there are transitions in relationships (such as you encounter your twin while you are sharing love with a soul mate) they will be handled with unconditional love, allowing for the process to occur without total separation: the old way would be abruptly ending the relationship whereas now we will be transitioning with love, allowing for the growth and the healing for all involved. Twin flame love is the highest vibration of love that can ever be shared and expressed…as more and more of us reunite in the physical, we will be bringing down all perceptions of “separation:” race, age, sex, geographic location, death, status, religious differences, and so much more. Keep watching…this is a powerful time we are living in and it is by no accident that your soul chose to be here now.
Here is a video that I feel describes the twin flame blessing in some detail. I however don’t agree with the statement that twin flames rarely meet and are incarnated together at the same time. Yes we do meet our twins in more than one lifetime and yes we do incarnate together.